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Women Over 40 Are Sharing Things They’re Fed Up With At This Point
If you have not ridden the rollercoaster known as perimenopause, congrats. Ditto if you’re one of the lucky ones who can say it was “not that bad.” But for many women, the years leading up to menopause can bring with them hot flashes, insomnia, vertigo, vaginal dryness, joint pain, and a host of other “fun” surprises. It’s like a second puberty, but there’s no Judy Blume book for this.
So when I, a frequent flyer on Hot Flash Airlines, came across Melani (@justbeingmelani) on TikTok, it was like a breath of fresh air. Melani is the founder of the “We Do Not Care Club,” a group for women in perimenopause and menopause. In the comments of her daily videos, women share things that we simply do not care about today. Then, the next day, Melani reads them back to the club, and commenters add new submissions.
Here are some of my personal favorite “We Do Not Care Club” submissions that made me laugh and nod my head “yes” so hard I got a neck ache:
1.“I don’t care that I have a California king and I sleep on one half and the other half is a two-week pile of clothes out of the dryer.”
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—sam_i_am_1968
2.“I don’t care what my family eats for dinner NO MORE! Eat Funyuns and jellybeans, WDNC.”
—khershalynn
3.“WDNC what we look like from the back. That is not our business.”
—sarahh5510
4.“WDNC Club….I finally found my people!!!!! WDNC if anyone can tell if we don’t have a bra on under the hoodie. The hoodie is an automatic exemption from a bra.”
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—macarone33
5.“We don’t care about learning new music. The ’90s was the best era anyway!!”
—ashan1976
6.“I do not care that my hair has been in a ponytail since 2001.”
—amysims50
7.“We don’t care that we want to be home all day on our days off! Everything I like is at home. I paid for it, Imma stay in it!”
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—vhardy.7
8.“We do not care what healthy salad, vegan, vegetarian, gluten-free, lactose-free rubbish our co-workers are having for lunch. Just let me eat my lasagne in peace!”
—lararandle1
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9.“And I don’t care about the perfect kitchen/bathroom/bedroom beige Pinterest aesthetic. I’m too old and tired. WDNC club.”
—itsjusterind
10.“We don’t care about those lights on the dashboard. If the car is moving, it’s fine.”
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—lemonzest83
11.“We do not care if our shoes are cute. Comfortable shoes only.”
—rme80
12.“I do not care how long it takes for me to put my wallet back into my purse after I pay for my groceries. Your turn starts when I am finished. Don’t rush me.”
—luckyredfriday
13.“WDNC about washing instructions. If it can’t survive a cold wash and a dry cycle, then it wasn’t for me anyway.”
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—shannihilation
14.“I do not care if people think my legs are too fat for shorts. It’s hot. You’re lucky I’m wearing anything.”
—l.arnold.stepp
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15.“WDNC to go to another work event. My teambuilding skills expired and will not be renewed.”
—bethklongpayabal
16.“We do not care if the AC is on 60. Don’t touch that fan. If you’re cold, get an extra blanket. I’m good.”
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—mizzterminator
17.“I do not care if I fart when I walk. It is out of my control.”
—heidimark1
18.“WDNC about folding our fitted sheets. I’m rolling them up in a ball and throwing them in the dresser. They will straighten themselves out!!!”
—sprouting_with_ivy
19.“We do not care to wear hard pants ever again.”
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—mylittlegardenplot
20.“We do not care if we said we would go. We changed our minds as soon as we got home.”
—spot.on.shay
21.“I do not care if my resting b—— face offends anyone. It’s my face, it’s not going to change right now.”
—lorib431
22.“We do not care if we have pet hair all over our clothes. Our pets are the only people we like.”
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—mookiepookie23
23.“WDNC. I’m gonna start eating the rotisserie chicken as soon as I get in the car.”
—yourmom77777777777
24.“We do not care if it says ‘Not Dishwasher Safe.’ It’s about to learn some hard lessons in this house 😆.”
—theathletesocialcoach
25.“Logging in from the Paris, France chapter of the WDNC club. We do not care if carbs and butter are ‘bad’ for us. Give us the damn croissant and nobody gets hurt.”
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—giadecadenet
26.“WDNC if the house is clean when you come over, also don’t come over.”
—bratcat178
27.“WDNC if we forget the name of something. We will make a new word for it, and you will have to understand what I meant.”
—noonespecial0515
28.“We do not care that we no longer keep a poker face at work. My eyebrow said what it said.”
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—tlen1985
29.“We do not care if a side part or a middle part is the hot trend. We style our hair whatever way the wind blows.”
—caryzel
30.“We do not care if we repeat the same story twice. If it was good once, it’ll be better the second time.”
—dorkapottamus
31.And finally, “I do not care that this club is for perimenopause/menopause women and I’m in my 20s, I relate to everything 🤣❤️.”
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—imjustdolly_
Follow Melani on TikTok to join the club, and let us know what you do not care about today in the comments!
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