Lifestyle
New Mom’s ‘Overwhelming’ In-Laws Insist on Visiting ‘Every Weekend’ After the Birth of Her First Baby
NEED TO KNOW
A woman who just gave birth says her in-laws are using their new grandchild as an excuse to visit every weekend
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that the in-laws “can be overwhelming”
And now, they’ve become even more so, with the woman taking to the internet to ask for advice
A woman who recently gave birth says her already “overwhelming” in-laws have become even more so — making it a point to visit their home every single weekend.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes, “For context, my in-laws are nice people. We’ve always gotten along fine. But they can be overwhelming.”
“They weren’t always this bad,” she continues. “Before I got pregnant with our first child, we only saw them every 3-4 weeks. So about once a month. I always looked forward to seeing them.”
But after the woman got pregnant with the couple’s first child, the in-laws “suddenly wanted to come over every weekend.”
“They’ve pretty much insisted on visiting every weekend, ever since,” she adds. “When they come over, they show up at 10 am, and stay until about 2 or 3pm. It’s been like that almost every weekend since my son was born and honestly, it’s become exhausting.”
Now, she writes that she doesn’t even look forward to the visits, and instead “dreads” them.
“I hate that, because they’re my husband’s parents and I don’t want to feel that way about them. But if they ever have to miss a weekend they act so deprived, and insist that we FaceTime them. It feels like we don’t even get a chance to miss them, if that makes sense,” she adds.
The woman writes that she sees her own parents “about every 2-3 weeks,” noting that both sets of parents live about an hour away.
Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE’s free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
Now, the woman is taking to Reddit to ask if she’s wrong “for wanting some space from my in-laws?”
Fellow Reddit users say they understand why the woman is upset, with one writing, “you deserve weekends to just exist as a family without hosting duties or guilt trips, space doesn’t mean rejection, it means respect.”
Added another: “How can you get stuff done? Relax, and enjoy your new family if you always have guests over on your days off? You need to have a strict one weekend for each parent set so that leaves every other weekend for yourselves. Set these boundaries now before you snap.”
Read the original article on People