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Bride’s Mom Tells Her It Would Be ‘Inconsiderate’ Not to Schedule Wedding Around Sister’s Plans to Get Pregnant
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A bride’s mom told her it would be “inconsiderate” of her not to schedule her upcoming wedding around her sister’s plans to get pregnant
The bride shared her dilemma on Reddit, seeking advice
Many readers told the bride to stick to her plans, assuring her she has “zero obligation” to her sister in this situation
A bride-to-be is trying to pin down her wedding date — and her mother is insisting she schedule the event around her sister’s plans to get pregnant.
The bride shared her dilemma in a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, beginning by explaining that she and her fiancé got engaged last summer and have already chosen their venue for the small wedding they envision. They are “strongly leaning towards” a May 2026 date, but also considering September as “a backup.”
However, the bride recently found out that her older sister is “trying for a baby” with her boyfriend. “She noted in her ideal world she would get pregnant fairly quickly and the baby would come around June,” the Redditor wrote.
The bride’s mother immediately began expressing concerns about her intention to move forward with her wedding timeline — particularly the May date — given the news about her sister.
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“She was taken aback and pointed out that my sister might be very pregnant and unable to come to our wedding,” the bride wrote. “I had considered this, but I also considered that it’s not guaranteed that she will get pregnant right away or at all, making it just as possible for her to be heavily pregnant in September.”
“Additionally, even if her ideal timeline did work, I live 600 miles away from her, so I doubt she would come to a September wedding with a newborn anyways,” she continued.
But the bride’s mom “seemed certain” that the sister would get pregnant “right away” and accused the bride of being “inconsiderate” for wanting to have her wedding in May.
Concluding her post, the Redditor asked if she’s “the a——” for “not scheduling my wedding around my sister’s family planning.”
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In the comments section, the majority of readers told the bride to stick to her wedding plans and not be swayed.
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“You cannot possibly plan a wedding around what MIGHT be going on in someone else’s life,” one person wrote. “I can see why your mother would love your sister to be able to attend your wedding, but her advice is just not realistic or practical.”
Another commenter told the bride to “do what works for you and your fiancé.”
“You have zero obligation to plan around your sister’s ‘plan’ to have a baby,” they argued. “I hope she’s super lucky and can conceive exactly as planned, but a lot of women know it doesn’t always work like that. You shouldn’t have to sit in limbo waiting to see if your sister’s exact plan is happening.”
Someone else wisely pointed out that “if people tried to plan around every wedding guest, no one would ever get married.”
Another commenter chimed in: “It’s one thing to plan around a known event, but it’s ridiculous to try to plan around an imaginary pregnancy.”
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